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Tuesday, January 31, 2006

Two People Conversing Privately to the Exclusion of a Third

Two People Conversing Privately to the Exclusion of a Third
This is one of the problems that exist in social gatherings, and it is one of the says in which the Shaytaan divides Muslims and makes some of them hate others. The Prophet (saas) explained the rule and the wisdom behind it: “If you are three, then two should not converse privately to the exclusion of a third until you are joined by other people, because this will make him sad.”1 This also includes three people talking privately to the exclusion of a fourth, and so on, and two people speaking in a language which the third does not understand, because this is undoubtedly a form of disdain towards the third, and gives the impression that they intend to hurt him, etc.
1)      Reported by al-Bukhaari, see Fath al-Baari, 11/83.

Eating Habits and Diet of The Prophet

The Prophet’s (PBUH - peace be upon him) guidance with regard to food is perfect guidance. It was described by Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) as follows:

When he (the Prophet) put his hand in the food, he would say, “Bismillaah (in the Name of Allaah), and he told people to say this when eating. He said, “When any one of you eats, let him mention the name of Allaah. If he forgets to mention the name of Allaah at the beginning, let him say Bismillaahi fi awwalihi wa aakhirihi (in the name of Allaah at its beginning and at its end).” Saheeh hadeeth, narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1859) and Abu Dawood (3767).

The correct view is that it is obligatory to mention the name of Allaah (say Bismillaah) when eating. The ahaadeeth which state this are saheeh (authentic) and are clear, with no contradictions in them.

When he raised the food to his mouth, he would say, Allaah be praised with an abundant, beautiful, blessed praise. He is the One Who is Sufficient, Who feeds and is never fed, The One Who is longed for, along with that which is with Him, and the One Who is needed. He is Our Lord, may He be glorified.
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5142).
He never criticized food at all. If he liked it, he would eat it, and if he did not like it, he would leave it and not say anything.
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3370) and Muslim (2064).
Or he would say, “I do not feel like eating this.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5076) and Muslim (1946).
Sometimes he would praise the food, as when he asked his family for food, and they said, “We have nothing but vinegar.” He asked for it and started to eat it, saying, “What a good food is vinegar.”
Narrated by Muslim (2052)
And he said to his step-son ‘Umar ibn Abi Salamah (ra - may Allah be pleased with him) when he was eating with him: “Say Bismillaah and eat from that which is in front of you in the dish*.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5061) and Muslim (2022). [* At the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), people used to eat together from one dish, and children would sometimes forget the correct etiquette. - Translator]

He would repeatedly urge his guests to eat, as generous hosts do, and as is seen in the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (ra - May Allah be pleased with him), narrated by al-Bukhaari, about the story of drinking milk, where he repeatedly said to him, “Drink” and he kept telling him to drink until he (the guest) said, “By the One Who sent you with the truth, I have no more room for it!” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6087).

When he ate with others, he would not leave until he had made du’aa’ (supplication) for them. He made du’aa in the house of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Bisr (ra), and said: “O Allaah, bless for them that which You have provided for them, forgive them and have mercy on them.”
Narrated by Muslim (2042).
He commanded people to eat with their right hands and forbade them to eat with their left hands. He said, “The Shaytaan (the devil) eats with his left hand and drinks with his left hand.” Narrated by Muslim (2020). This implies that eating with the left hand is haraam (forbiden), and this is the correct view, because the one who eats with his left hand is either a shaytaan (a devil), or he is imitating the Shaytaan.

It was also reported in a saheeh hadeeth that he told a man who was eating with his left hand in his presence, “Eat with your right hand!” The man said, “I cannot.” He said, “May you never be able to!” – and the man never lifted his right hand to his mouth after that. Narrated by Muslim (2021). If it was permissible (to eat with the left hand), he would not have prayed against him for doing so. It was the man’s stubborn arrogance that made him refuse to obey the command, and this is the utmost disobedience which deserved this prayer against him.

He commanded those who complained that they never felt full to eat together and not separately, and to mention the name of Allaah (say Bismillaah) over the food so that He might bless it for them.”
Narrated by Abu Dawood (3764) and Ibn Maajah (3286).
It was also reported that he said, “I do not eat reclining.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5083.
He used to eat using the first three fingers (of his right hand), which is the best way of eating.
The Prophet’s guidance regarding diet:
1, The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to know what he was eating.

2, He used to eat what was good for him.

3, He used to eat enough to keep him going, but no so much as to make him fat. Ibn ‘Umar (ra - may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The believer eats in one stomach whilst the kaafir (dis-believer) eats in seven.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5081) and Muslim (2060).
4, He taught his ummah something to protect them from diseases caused by eating and drinking. He said: “The son of Adam does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach. It is sufficient for the son of Adam to eat a few mouthfuls, to keep him going. If he must do that (fill his stomach), then let him fill one third with food, one third with drink and one third with air.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1381), Ibn Maajah (3349);

Lazy Boy

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During the time of the Prophet Muhammad (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), an incident happened in which a man slept the entire night and he missed the Fajr prayer.  Despite the fact that this is a very common occurrence in our present day, at that time such things rarely happened.
He missed Fajr, and so they came and spoke to the Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) about this…
‘Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood, (radiyAllaahu ‘anhu) narrates:  A man came and said to the Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), “Oh Messenger of Allaah, verily a person slept last night until the morning, until the dawn came and he missed Fajr.”  The Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) replied “This is a person whom the devil has urinated in his ears.”
Dear Brothers and Sisters, try going to any books of hadeeth.  In each and every one you will find a chapter entitled, ‘Baab al-Isti’aadhah Minal Kasl.’  Translated, this chapter is called ‘Chapter of Seeking Allaah’s Protection from Laziness.’
KASAL or laziness, also known as ‘procrastination’ is a disease.  University Students know what procrastination can do to their studies.  It is a disease that afflicts the minds.  After the mind, it then afflicts the heart. Finally, through the heart, the entire body is afflicted. 
Today, you will learn that laziness is a technique used by Satan, and today you will learn the techniques you can use to combat it.
The Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) frequently made the following supplication:  “Oh Allaah, I seek your protection from, ‘ALAJZ’ (see Dua at the end of this article)– which means the inability to do something.”  And when someone says, “I can’t do that,” the Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would seek protection from such negative speech by adding:  “and I seek your protection (Oh Allaah) from ‘alkasal’- which is translated as laziness.”
At its core, this society is built on laziness. Consider that it is a society based on the idea that we have to rest on Sundays.  “Why do you have to rest on Sundays?” some may ask.  And society (may Allaah protect us from this) would answer that even Allaah got lazy on Sunday.  He did His work all week long, He built the heavens and the earth, and then on Sunday He got tired and rested.   So, may Allaah protect us, contemporary culture has us resting and watching football games on Sundays.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) testifies to the lunacy of such an idea, implicitly stating, “That there is no drowsiness and no sleep that comes to Him.” (2/255, Ayatal Kursi)
In addition, we live in a society that lives for “fast and easy”.  You have the fast food joints, even the microwave meals that take 5 minutes are considered tedious because you have to take it out after a couple of minutes and stir it before it is finished cooking.  Ever hear the promises to have the perfect body in ten minutes for only three days a week?  Examples abound.   And in its quest for fast and easy, society does not realize that the root of its problems, indeed, the root of all major sins, lies in laziness.
Why would a person take alcohol and drugs?  They are too lazy to change their situation.  Instead of actively striving for change, they take a drug to immediately change it.  Why do people practice black magic, a phenomenon that is, unfortunately, prevalent in many of our parent’s societies?  They do it because they are too lazy to go out and get married, or they’re too lazy to influence people in ways that will accomplish their various goals.  Why do people partake in ‘Riba’ (mortgages) and deal with financial interest?  They are too lazy to get a proper job and work to pay for something honestly.  Why do people gamble?  They addictively buy lottery tickets at ridiculous odds of winning in the hopes that their one dollar will instantly earn millions.  Laziness is again the culprit.  What about that job?  Why do people backbite?  People backbite because they are too lazy to go and tell the person the truth…And these, dear brothers and sisters, are all major sins.
Thus, like a poison, laziness corrupts all good things.
There are beautiful and amazing things that you want to do for yourself, or do for Allaah (subhaahanu wa ta’aala).  Your intention is good, but if you don’t have the energy, or you suffer from the laziness plight, your desires will go nowhere, they will bear no fruit.
The causes of the disease called laziness are rooted in the heart.
Firstly, a lazy person doesn’t know and doesn’t understand his or her need to accumulate good deeds.  We understand the need to accumulate money, but we may not understand why or how to accumulate good deeds.  Very few people understand that this life is about collecting deeds and preparing for the journey of the hereafter.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) advises, “to prepare your provisions (that pack your suitcases) for the best provision, the best thing to pack your suitcases with is the Taqwa (or Fear/Piety) of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala). (2/197) And this is the commandment of Allaah.”
Secondly, people are discouraged by the thought that others will consider them “holier than thou.”   Or perhaps the problem is that some people think too highly of themselves, glorifying themselves to such a high level that when they hear the commandments of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) they reply by justifying their laziness with excuses like; “My heart is clean,” or “Why do I have to do that,” or “I’m a good person.”  Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) states:  “Do not claim piety to yourselves.” (53/32) If someone says, “I’m good,” the response should be that “Allaah knows best who is true, who is righteous.”
Indeed, those who suffer from laziness don’t understand the gold mine of opportunity awaiting them.  There are thousands of people around you waiting to hear the call of Islam.  You are living among sponges ready to listen to you say, “I am a Muslim.”  And they are going to ask, “How can I become one too?”
A brother I knew overseas said it perfectly:  “The North Americans have such enormous prospects.   Imagine teaching a new Muslim Soorah al-Faatihah, or how to pray.  You will get the reward for this most noble lesson each time the person recites this soorah.   You can’t do that in Muslim countries, although there are other different opportunities there, most people don’t recognize them and this leads to laziness”
Know that this concerns you and if you start demonstrating the energy and zeal it takes to worship Allaah to the best of your ability, then you will be the one to benefit.
This is your life.  This is your soul.  You are only going to live once on this earth, and you’ll be traveling to the hereafter with a suitcase of good deeds.  Hopefully, you won’t be traveling light.  The one who understands this early on, the one to get on the bandwagon of the worship of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) early on, accumulates everything.
Be a pioneer, bring Islam to everyone.  “And so they come on the day of resurrection and they see these mountains of good deeds that they never imagined they would have had… and it will be said to them… this is because you weren’t lazy back in the day when other people were lazy…”  Recognize the opportunity, seize it, and kick start the worship of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) by others.
But if you chose not to heed these words, to yawn, and to be lazy, you are turning your back on the words of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala). And the consequences will be grave, for the sunnah of creation, indeed the law of nature, stipulates that that which does not contribute will be destroyed.  What do you do with weeds in your garden?  You pull them out, you get rid of them.  What do you do when your nails get too long, when there is no purpose to their length?  You snip them off, discard them in the trash. And so it is, as a community and as individuals in that community, if we are not contributing, and if we are not energetically producing, we will be deemed useless and we will be eliminated.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) says:  “In this way, He gives forth the parable of the truth and falsehood and the vanity.  Vanity is like the foam, the dirt on the ocean (there is not benefit to it).  But the things that do bring benefit (those devoid of laziness) will remain steadfast in the land.”  Even after you are gone, your good deeds will continue to benefit. (13/17)
Do not make the mistake of thinking that Allaah pays attention to the lazy one’s worship.  The Prophet Muhammad (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:  “Do those deeds that you are able to perform, for verily, Allaah will not tire of your ‘Ibadah (worship) until you tire.”
Ponder the phenomenon of those who make du’aa absentmindedly, not knowing what it is that they are saying.  They may even be yawning, confused, or focused on something else entirely.  Allah is not paying attention to that person just like they are not paying attention to their du’aa. That is a du’aa that is not answered by Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala).  A du’aa that is answered is the one where the person’s heart and energy are invested in it.  Allaah will listen.  If you can consistently take your du’aa to that level, you’ll see dramatic changes in your life.
When I was younger, there was an imam from overseas who came to lead the taraweeh prayers in Ramadhan.  We would have to pick him up at Fajr time and drive him to the masjid.  One early morning, I was feeling particularly tired and lazy.  My parents had an especially hard time waking me up.  Yet, when we arrived at the Imam’s house, I noticed that the neighbors were in the midst of an all-night party.  It was 5 am and their lights were blaring, their music was booming, and the party-goers were still drinking their alcohol.  They’d spent the entire night awake in “Qiyaamul layl,” but not to Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala).  Their worship was for the devil.

I remember thinking to myself that this disbeliever has the stamina and energy to waste the night away, how can the servant of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) not have the energy and ability to worship Him? After all, they, too, are humans like us.  ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (radiyAllaahu ‘anhu) is quoted as saying, “I seek Allaah’s protection from the time when the ‘fasiq’ or disobedient will have much energy and enthusiasm and the righteous will be lazy.”  The fasiq will open up bars everywhere and run his houses of immorality with vigor.  And the righteous will do little to nothing in the sake of Allaah.  When this happens, there is an imbalance on earth, and corruption will be widespread and prevalent.
Brothers and sisters, let me tell you about the blessedness of having energy and enthusiasm in worshipping Allaah will do for you.
Number 1:  The extra energy will win you the pleasure of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala).
Musa (‘alayhis salaam) was told to come to the mountain for 40 days.   And come he did, not walking slowly, not ten minutes late, but running.  In explaining his arrival, Musa said, “I came hastily to you, oh Allaah, so that you will be pleased with me.” (20/84)  And indeed, his words were so pleasing to his creator that Allah recorded them in the Quran for all eternity.
When you hear a name of a prophet’s companion, you say, “May Allaah be pleased with him.”  Well, this is how you get that same distinction for yourself.  Be hasty in your desire and actions that lead to goodness.
Number 2: Having energy is the characteristic of the believer.  Being lazy is the characteristic of the hypocrite.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) says the ‘munaafiq,’ or hypocrite is he who has disbelief in his heart, while outwardly claiming belief.  Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) describes them in the following verse: “If they get up for the ‘salaah’ (prayer), they get up with laziness.” (4/142)
“Give me ten more minutes…give me ten more minutes… oh! I missed fajr…oh no.  I’ll pray after fajr… Give me ten more minutes.  Give me ten more minutes…”
A characteristic of hypocrisy; when they reach for that snooze button and get up lazily for prayer, they’re experiencing a state of ‘nifaq’ or hypocrisy.  May Allaah protect us.
May He also protect us from using excuses to not follow through with our deeds.
A Canadian may say it’s too cold.  An African will say it’s too hot.   Both are making excuses for not doing good actions.  It was summer in the desert during the time of the Battle of Tabuk, and a walking distance of what is today a seven-hour car trip from Madinah to Tabuk.  The Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was rallying his troops for an exhaustive trek that, back then, would have taken months.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) says, “they (the hypocrites) encouraged people not to go with the Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) by saying ‘do not go out in the heat’.”  Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) response was to tell them, “that the fire of hell is much hotter; if only they understood.” (9/81)
Ibn al-Jawzee, may Allah have mercy on his soul, said “I have never seen a flaw sadder to me than a community whose people stop working, despite having the ability to continue.”
Second Khutbah
The ramifications of laziness can be very harmful.  Some of you may have come across a person who displays a genuine interest in Islam.  That person may be about to take the shahada when shaytan gets to him and her.  An excuse the devil uses is, “You have to comprehend the Qur’aan first.”  Hence the would-be Muslim is convinced that they do love Islam, but perhaps further study is required.  And so it is that he or she delays coming back to Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala), and as time passes they may no longer possess the same enthusiasm.
Similarly, Muslims seeking to make repentance to Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) might give themselves time by saying, “let me wait till I pay off my mortgage, or pay off my student loans… let me wait till I do this, let me wait till I do that, then I will repent to Allaah.” But it doesn’t work like that because as time passes and sins grow, the heart consistently gets weaker and weaker.  A time will come when the person knows it’s the last chance, but the heart may have already been sealed shut.
And as the Prophet Muhammad (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “Race to good deeds before a time and a fitnah comes, (a test) that will sweep over you like the darkest of the darkest nights.”
Are not the trials apparent all around us?
Look to the Islamic educational scene.  Scholars we may or may not know are being singled out by the dozens.  Religious knowledge is being taken from us.  If you have the chance to attend a halqah, or an Islamic class, you have to race to it NOW!  It may be that you won’t have another chance.
Fitnah will come to you, and you must survive it with whatever knowledge you hold.  It may be that the knowledge you possess will suffice to protect you, and it may be that it will not be enough to avail you.  The consequences thereof would be disastrous, and may eventually lead to hellfire.  May Allah protect us. 
Picture this analogy:  In Australia they have sharks that prey near the coastline.  To warn bathing humans of impending danger, they have a certain whistle that rings when a shark is sighted.  Now imagine if you’re feeling sluggish or you’re playing a game trying to see how long you can hold your breath under the water.  You don’t hear the warning sound, and then you raise your head out of the water, and notice that nobody is in it except you.  Everyone has made it to shore, they are yelling for you to hurry, but you are ten minutes from the beach.  How would you make it?  Would you make it?  Only Allaah knows for sure, but that’s exactly what laziness does to you.  It not only renders you unprepared, but also helpless as to the actions you must take in order to survive.
But today is a new day, and by the grace of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala), you and I can learn to let go of that laziness.   We will work with renewed energy, striving to return to the worship of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala).
Here are some techniques to use.
Number 1: Yawning promotes laziness
Yawning is from the devil.  And when it comes to us, we must fight it.   Despite what your medical classes are telling you about needing oxygen through yawning, it was your Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) who advised on covering the mouth and resisting the yawn, by not letting out any noise.  No “Ahhhsss!”
Number 2: Eating 1/3rd 
The Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) taught us to eat using the 1/3rd   method.  You don’t need much to sustain yourself, a few bites will usually do, but if you are going to eat a meal, then 1/3rd is the crucial number.   One third should be the food, one third for water, and one third for breathing.
Realize that one of the most cunning tricks of shaytan is urging people to fill their stomachs beyond capacity.  How many times have you eaten a huge meal only to feel like taking a nap afterwards?  And how many times has this nap dissuaded you from the worship of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala)?
Number 3:  Spend time with energetic people
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) says, “Be patient with those people who call upon their lord…in the mornings and the evenings.”
When you see a person going for salah consistently, always in a state of worship and remembrance of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala), you say to them, “Hey brother / hey sister, how about we go out for lunch?  I’d like to spend time with you.”
Feed from their energy.  Alternatively, if lazy people surround you, distance yourself from them, or give them da’wah, encouraging positive action.  You want to pick the right people, because we tend to emulate those whom we befriend.
Do as your prophet did and constantly seek refuge from Allaah from the laziness that shaytan uses to defeat the Muslims.  When you find yourself reaching for that snooze button, a.k.a ‘the shaytan button’, remember the ploy against you and seek Allaah’s help to resist.  You will have the strength to wake for Fajr.  Ultimately, laziness is a state of mind.
In conclusion, the one concept that ties this all together is honesty.  Being honest about your laziness and sincerely striving to change is the first step in seeing results.  The fact of the matter is that when Allaah commands us to do something, it is not possible to have excuses, and know that tasks put upon you are doable, for Allaah “does not place a burden on a person more than they can bear.” (2/286 last of Surah Baqrah) You can do it, others have done it before you, and others continue to do it.  Join the ranks of the energetic.
Ka’ab ibn Malik, (radiyAllaahu ‘anhu), went to the Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) after the battle of Tabuk, and the hypocrites had been making excuses for their absence from the fighting.  Ka’ab had not participated and he thought that he too might come up with some excuse in order to save himself, but he realized that he could not lie to the Prophet of Allaah.  He told the Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), “I have never had more energy or ability than this time, but I just didn’t go.” And the prophet said, “he is the one who is truthful.”  And by the potency of his honesty and sincerity, the Qur’aan mentions that Allaah had forgiven Ka’ab.
How do you truthfully word the reasons for your laziness?  If the Fajr prayer has passed you by and the devil has urinated in your ears, do not place blame where blame is not due.  Don’t make excuses like, “I had a long night.”  Instead, say, “the truth is that the accumulation of my sins led me to miss Fajr.  But this is not who I am.  I am the slave of Allaah.   Oh Allaah, tomorrow, with your permission, I will show you what I am going to do for your sake” And so you make your repentance, you repeat your good intentions, and you continue until you reach those higher levels of energy.
I ask Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta’aala) to bless you with that energy and I pray and hope that you can make the same du’aa for me.
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An Excellent Dua taught by our beloved Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) to Abu Hurairah (radi’Allaah anuh)

Planning is necessary

When you are studying or thinking about taking admission, planning ahead is necessary. If you take step-by-step approach you will definitely be able to cover the whole course. Not only that, but also your confidence level with get higher every day and at the end you will get the result you are looking for.
Most students find difficult to make a plan for the course. They have more notes, books, cds, questions etc than the library but still they just sit there and go through looking at them without any plan. Hours after hours, day by day they do the same thing without any effective study. They figure that the notes are not enough so they get more and more, chase friends and tutors, email group members to send them more. They like collecting notes but those notes cannot help them; they only make them more desperate.

A simple plan can bring all the difference in the world. I can tell you from experience because your confidence level changes from one day to another. You might find that you can finish half a book and numerous questions in one day but on some days a couple of pages and a simple question can give you a big headache. A simple plan for tomorrow that's all you need for effective study.


What are you going to do tomorrow? How much are you going to cover tomorrow? How many hours you are likely to give tomorrow. Start a new copy and write it down, select the books, notes etc you need for tomorrow, remove the ones you don't need tomorrow from the table and put them out of sight.

Once you have the plan for tomorrow then you need to give sometime to think it over. It takes around 30 minutes or less to go over the plan. How many things you need to learn by heart, underline the paragraphs, answers, solutions etc. How many questions you want to try tomorrow, how many pages, articles etc you want to read, write it down.

The whole point is that your plan for tomorrow must have an objective, what is it you want to achieve tomorrow? Be realistic, don't try to be a hero, it doesn't work. Once you try this, you will find that you can cover much more in two hours of effective study than you can do in a week.

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It is absolutely clear that the significance of the day of Aashoorah is from the time of the Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

However, many people regard this day as the day of mourning the martyrdom of Hadhrat Husayn radhiyallahu anhu. The martyrdom of Hadhrat Husayn radhiyallahu anhu was indeed a great tragedy but Islaam is not a religion of perpetual mourning. Abu Saeed radhiyallahu anhu relates that Rasullullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam has cursed mourners and those who listen to them (attentively). (Abu Dawood)

The pages of Islaamic History are filled with the blood of the martyrs. Should we begin to mourn the martyrdom of the Sahaabah alone, every other day would be a day of mourning. Thus, to attribute the significance of Aashoorah to the martyrdom of HadhratHusayn radhiyallahu anhu is baseless. Therefore, the host of baseless customs with regard to his martyrdom must be discarded.

Shaykh Abdul Haqq Muhaddith Dehlawi writes: Beware! Do not
participate in the innovations of the Rawaafidh. Do not involve yourself in the mourning, lamenting and displaying grief. This is not the conduct of the Muslims. If mourning was permissible then the day of the demise of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam would have been more worthy for (mourning and lamenting). Also, refrain from innovations of the Khawaarij (those who harbour hatred for the family of Rasullullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam). Similarly,
refrain from the innovations of the ignorant because they oppose ruin with destruction, innovations with innovations and evil with sin and show great joy and happiness in it. They regard the tenth of Muharram as the day of Eid. They indulge in adornment and dying of the hair and beard, applying surmah (collyrium), wearing new clothes, spending lavishly, and cooking various foods and khitchra (a certain type of food) which are not generally prepared. All these actions are regarded as sunnah according to their belief, where as
the true sunnah is to shun all these useless practices, since no authentic narration sanctioning and permitting such actions can be found. (Maa thabata bis sunnah Page 20-21)

Shaykh Abdul Haqq further writes a detailed list of the various beliefs about the significance of the day of Aashoorah; many of them being quoted even in our time; and concludes by saying: "All the above are fabrications." (Maa thabata bis sunnah Page 21)

Let us observe this great day according to the way of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam and the Sahaabah radhiyallahu anhum and refrain from all innovations which deprive us of the blessings from Allah Ta'aala. May Allah guide us all upon the Straight Path and save us from every act which brings His displeasure.  Aameen.



The Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam has exhorted and
encouraged his ummah to fast on this day. Abu Qataadah radhiyallahu anhu narrates that the Holy Prophet sallahllahu alayhi wasallam was asked regarding the fast of the day of Aashoorah. The Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam replied: "It is a compensation for the (minor) sins of the past year". (Muslim Vol.1 Page 368)

NOTE:- It must be borne in mind that wherever a promise of
forgiveness of sins is made upon the fulfillment of some action, it is only the minor sins that are forgiven. The major sins are not forgiven without true tawbah (repentance).

One should also observe the fast of the 9th Muharram to safeguard his deed from resemblance with the non-muslims who fast only on the 10th Muharram. Ibne Abbas radhiyallahu anhu said: When Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam observed the fast of the day of Aashoorah and ordered (his Companions) to fast, they said, "O Rasulullah!It is a day revered by the Jews and Christians." Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, "The coming year, if Allah wills, we will fast on the ninth (also)". (Muslim Vol.1 Page 359)

These ahadeeth indicate clearly that one should fast on the ninth and tenth of Muhaaram. However, if one does not manage to fast on the ninth, then he should fast on the eleventh of Muharram instead. The Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said: "Observe the fast of Aashoorah and oppose the Jews. Fast a day before it or a day after." (Bayhaqi). Hence, it is important to either fast on the ninth and tenth of Muharram or the tenth and eleventh. To fast only on the day of Aashoorah is makrooh tanzeehi as stated by Allamah Ibne Aabideen Shaami.
One should be generous on one's family and dependents and spend more on them than what is normally spent. Abu Hurayrah radhiyallahu anhu reports that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said: "One who generously spends on his family on the day of Aashoorah, Allah will increase (his provision) for the whole year". (Bayhaqi, At Targheeb Wat Tarheeb Vol. 2 Page 116)

These are the only actions supported by ahaadeeth.


The tenth day of this sacred month, Muharram is known as Aashoorah. It is one of the most important and blessed days of Allah in the Islaamic calendar. Some ulamaa (scholars) are of the opinion that before the fasts of Ramadhaan were made compulsory, the fast of the day of Aashoorah was compulsory upon the ummah. This is stated in a hadeeth reported by Aaishah radhiyallahu anha that the Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam ordered the observance of the fast of
Aashoorah. However, when the fast of Ramadhaan became compulsory, then whosoever wished, kept this fast and whosoever desired did not observe this fast. Bukhari Vol.1 Page 268

But, nevertheless the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam continued to fast this day and encouraged his Companions to do the same. Ibne Abbas radhiyallahu anhu says: I did not see Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam anxiously await the fast of any day, which he gave preference to over other days, but this day, the day of Aashoorah. Bukhari Vol.1 Page 268

Humayd Ibne Abdur Rahamaan narrates that he heard Mu'aawiyah Ibne Abi Sufyaan radhiyallahu anhu on the day of 'Aashoorah, during the year he performed hajj, saying on the pulpit: "O the people of Madinah! Where are your ulamaa (scholars)? I heard Rasullullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam saying: This is the day of 'Aashoorah. Allah has not enjoined its fasting on you but I am fasting it. Whosoever wish, keep (this) fast and whosoever desires do not observe (this fast)." Bukhari Vol.1 Page 268

In another hadeeth, Ibne Abbas raahiyallahu anhu narrates that the Holy Prophet sallallaha alayhi wasallam came to Madinah and found the Jews fasting on the day of 'Aashoorah. Hence the Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam inquired of them, "What is (the significance of) this day on which you fast?" They replied, "This is a great day. On this day Allah saved Moosa and his people and drowned Fir'awn and his nation. Thus Moosa alayhis salaam fasted on this day as a token of thanksgiving, therefore we too fast on this day." The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, "We
are more worthy of Moosa and nearer to him than you."
Thereafter, the Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam fasted on this day and ordered (his Companions) that a fast be kept on this day. (Muslim Vol.1 Page 359)



With the sighting of the new moon the Islaamic new year is ushered in. The first month Muharram is one of the four sacred months that Allah has mentioned in the Holy Qur'aan:

Lo.' The number of the months with Allah is twelve months by
Allah `s ordinance in the day that He created the heavens and the earth. Four of them are sacred: that is the right religion. So wrong not yourselves in them.

The specification of these four sacred months is stated in a hadeeth narrated by Abu Bakrah radhiyallahu anhu ; Verily time has completed its cycle and returned to its original stage as it was on the day Allah created the heavens and the earth. The year consists of twelve months, four of which are sacred. Three of them occur consecutively; Zil Qa'dah, Zil Hijjah and Muharram , (the fourth being) Rajab of Mudhar (named after the tribe of Mudhar as they used to respect this month) which occurs between Jamadiul Aakhir and Sha'baan. (Bukhari
Vol.2 Page 622)

From out of the four sacred months, Muharram has been blessed with certain specific virtues. The Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said: The best of fasts besides the month of Ramadhaan is the fasting of Allah's month of Muharram and the best of salaat besides the fardh (compulsory) salaat is the tahajjud salaat (performed after midnight before dawn). Muslim Vol.1 Page 368

In another hadeeth, Ibne Abbas radhiyallahu anhu reports that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said: He who fasts on the day of Arafah (9th Zil Hijjah), his fast will be a compensation for the sins of two years and the one that keeps a fast in the month of Muharram will receive the reward of thirty fasts for each fast (in this sacred month). Tabraani, At Targheeb WatTarheeb Vol.2 Page 114.

Be good to your Parents

Increase the length of your life: Be good to your Parents
“And your lord has ordered that you worship none but him, and that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them a word but address them in terms of honour.”
“And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My lord! Bestow on them your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.” (Part 15: Surah 17 Al-Isra)
The most striking opening of an ayat, which starts with the obedience of Allah Taa'la and thereafter to be dutiful to your parents. This verse is clearly indicating towards the importance of obedience to the parents and fulfilling the orders laid by the lord of the universe himself.
Through the light of the Hadith, we will learn the importance of being righteous and obedience to our parents and the punishments of disobeying the command of Allah Taa'la.
The Final Prophet: Muhammad Allah's peace and blessings be upon him has said:
“The pleasure of the lord is the pleasure of a parent, and the wrath of the lord is the wrath of a parent.”
It is clear from this Hadith that to keep Allah Taa'la happy, it is necessary that our parents are happy with us.
In a Hadith, which I will quote briefly:
Taysalah ibn Mayyas said, “I did certain things that I can only consider as major sins. When I mentioned this to ibn Umar, he asked me what I had done, and he said that those are not major sins. Rather, he said “The major sins which are nine in number”. One of the nine that ibn Umar mentioned was causing ones parents to shed tears because of ones disobedience. Then ibn Umar said to Taysalah ibn Mayyas, “Do you fear the fire and desire to go to paradise?” Taysalah ibn Mayyas replied, “Yes, by Allah Taa'la!” he said. “Are your parents still alive?” I replied “Only my mother.” He replied, “By Allah, if you speak with her gently and give her food to eat, you will surely enter paradise if you avoid these major sins.”
Abu Huraira May Allah be please with him reported that once the Prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him was asked to whom one should be good to. He replied, “Your mother.” He was asked the same question a second time, and he replied, “Your mother.” He was asked the same question a third time and he replied,” Your mother.” He was asked the same question a fourth time and he replied,” Your father.”
Ibn Abbas said, “Any Muslim whose father and mother are Muslims and who wakes every morning with the intention of doing right by them will have two doors opened for him/her in paradise by Allah Taa'la. If only one parent is alive, then one door (will be opened). If he/she angers a parent, Allah Taa'la will not be pleased with him/her. Then the Prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him was asked, “What if one's parents are unjust to him/her?” He answered, “Even if they are unjust (one must act good to please ones parents)”.
Abdullah ibn Amr said, “A man went to the Prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him to pledge his allegiance to him for the coming (from Makkah to Madinah). However, he left his parents crying. The Prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him told him “Go back to them and make them as happy as you have made them sad”.
This man had come to the Prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him to take an oath of allegiance on him on migrating; his intentions were auspicious and virtuous deeds. However, his parents did not agree to his separation, as migrating was not compulsory at that time. They became restless on the prospect of his journey and wept in sadness. When the Prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him learnt of this, he instructed the man to return to his parents and make them laugh just as he had made them weep.
This indicates the merit and significance of kindness to love ones parents and being a sin to do something which causes sadness to parents and makes them weep. It is virtuous and rewarding to do what makes them happy and laugh.
Hazarat Mu'adh May Allah be please with him reported that the prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him said “good news to those who are good to their parents, good will increase the length of their lives “.
Abu Ja'far heard Abu Huraira May Allah be please with him say that the Prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him said, “There is no doubt that three kinds of prayers will be answered, the prayer of the oppressed, the prayer of the traveller, and the prayers of the parents for their children”.
Prayers of parents for their children will be accepted immediately whether it is a prayer in the favour of the children or against the children, so we must do our up most best to keep our parents happy.
Certain people have included among whose supplication is definitely granted are those who treat their parents kindly.
Sayyidina Uwais al Qarni (Rahmatullahi Alayhi) was a resident of Yemen . The Holy Prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him called him the best of Tabieen (successors) and he said, “Get him to pray for your forgiveness”. He had embraced Islam at the time of the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam but he could not present himself before the Prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him because he looked after his mother and thus remained deprived of the honour of companionship. It is clear from the conduct of Sayyidina Uwais Qarni, that to be good and mindful to parents is a very high ranking deed.
The Prophet Allah's peace and blessings be upon him said, “Uwais has his mother. He has treated her kindly. If Uwais claims (anything) on Allah Taa'la then Allah Taa'la will surely let him have what he claims”.
source: inter-islam.org

Hadith of the Day: Superiority of the Quran

Narrated by Abu Musa Al Ashari(Radhiallaho anho):

Allah's Messenger (sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam), said,
"The example of him (a believer) who recites the Qur'an is like that of a citron which tastes good and smells good. And he (a believer) who does not recite the Qur'an is like a date which is good in taste but has no smell.
And the example of a dissolute wicked person who recites the Qur'an is like the Raihana (sweet basil) which smells good but tastes bitter. And the example of a dissolute wicked person who does not recite the Qur'an is like the colocynth which tastes bitter and has no smell."

Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol. 6 : No. 538


There was once an old Indian who was poverty stricken. But one day, he strike it big when oil was discovered on his land. He became wealthy overnight and decided to reward himself by buying a Cadillac touring car. In those days, the Cadillac touring cars had two spare tires on the back. The old Indian wanted to be different and so he placed four spare tires at the back of his car.

He bought himself a beautiful suit and hat. Everyday, with a cigar in his mouth he would drive into the hot, dusty, little Oklahoma cowboy town nearby. He wanted to show off his new car. He waved and spoke to
everyone that he passed by, on the right and on the left. He sometimes turned all the way around to speak
to the folks. The strange thing is that he never ran into anybody or over anybody. He never did hit anybody
or anything. Guess why? Directly in front of that big beautiful car, there were two horses – pulling it!


There was nothing wrong with the car, but the old Indian never learned how to start the car engine. Inside the car were a hundred horses, but the old Indian was only using two horses on the outside. Most
of us make the same mistake of looking outside of us when we already have within us the necessary power to move us forward. Scientists said that we only use about 10% to 15 % of our full potential. Therefore, it is up to us to tap into our own potential and awaken the sleeping giant within us.


"There are no hopeless situations; there are only people who have grown hopeless about them."

Author : Richard Quek

Extra-virgin olive oil & Regular Virgin Oil

Q. Does extra-virgin olive oil have more health benefits than virgin or regular olive oil?

A.It's not clear whether one grade of olive oil has more health benefits than other grades. The health benefits of olive oil are primarily related to its high levels of monounsaturated fats.

Although processed differently, extra-virgin, virgin and regular olive oils are all excellent sources of monounsaturated fats. When used in place of saturated fats, such as butter, monounsaturated fats appear to improve cholesterol levels and reduce the risk of heart attack. They may also play a role in lowering the risk of some cancers.

Here are the processing methods for different grades of olive oil:

Extra-virgin olive oil is cold pressed from ripe olives using no chemicals or heat. It's the least processed of the different grades of oil. As a result, it retains the highest levels of antioxidants and polyphenolics found in olives. Antioxidants appear to protect the body from age-related changes and certain diseases.

Polyphenolics are compounds thought to improve the immune system. But there's no evidence that these compounds in extra-virgin olive oil provide added health benefits.

Virgin olive oil also is cold pressed from ripe olives but contains more acid in the final product. The filtration process may reduce some of the antioxidants and polyphenolics in virgin olive oil.

Olive oil is a blend of refined oil. It's chemically extracted from olives and has less of the antioxidants and polyphenolics found in virgin olive oil.

As for taste, extra-virgin olive oil is generally more flavorful. It's well suited to salads and marinades rather than cooking. Because it tends to contain sediment and small particles of olives, extra-virgin olive oil is more likely to burn or smoke during

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The Prophet as a Man: Maintaining an Air of Dignity and Calmness

The Prophet as a Man: Maintaining an Air of Dignity and Calmness
 Many of us often wonder what the Prophet (peace be upon him) looked like. We learn how he conducted his affairs, and how he cared for his family and his companions, and we listen to his teachings. We may feel that he is close to us, and that we know him well, but we cannot visualize his physical appearance. Yet we have several detailed descriptions of him, some of which are given by those who were in close contact with him over a long period of time, such as his cousin and son-in-law, Ali ibn Abi Talib. Rather than give such a detailed account of the Prophet's physical appearance, we will concentrate on his general description and on pointing out some aspects of how he looked in different situations.
Ata' ibn Yassar mentions that he asked Abdullah ibn Amr ibn Al-Aas, a young companion of the Prophet who reported a large number of Hadiths, about the Prophet's description in the Torah. This is in reference to the Qur'anic statement that the Prophet is clearly described in both the Torah and the Gospel: "Those who follow the Messenger, the unlettered Prophet whom they shall find described in the Torah and the Gospel that are with them. He commands them to do what is right and forbids them to do what is wrong, and makes lawful to them the good things of life and forbids them all that are foul. He lifts from them their burdens and the shackles that weigh upon them. Those, therefore, who believe in him, honor and support him, and follow the light that has been bestowed from on high through him shall indeed be successful." (7: 157)
Abdullah ibn Amr answered: "Yes indeed! The Torah includes some of his description given in the Qur'an: 'Prophet! We have sent you as a witness (to the truth), and as herald of good tidings, and a warner,' (33: 45) to all mankind. You are My servant and My messenger. I have called you Al-Mutawakkil, the one who relies (on Me)." He is further described as "neither harsh nor crude. He is not one to speak loudly in markets. Nor does he repel one bad action with a similarly bad one, but he forgives and forbears. God will not gather him to Himself until He has established through him the perfect religion, purging it of all crookedness so that people will declare that 'There is no deity other than God.' And through him God will open some blind eyes, deaf ears and sealed hearts."
We note here that there is no description of the Prophet's physical appearance. What is important is the Prophet's character, which is described in clear terms, and a statement of his role and status. He is certainly a witness to the truth and a herald bringing good news and issuing a warning. The good news is given to those who follow the truth he states, and the warning is to those who turn away from it. They have to change their stance if they wish not to incur God's displeasure and be liable to His punishment. He is given a name that describes his character. No matter how strong the opposition he faces, he places his trust in God and feels sure that the truth will eventually triumph.
Abdullah ibn Amr goes on to describe the Prophet's behavior as stated in the Qur'an and the Torah. All the characteristics that make people turn away are alien to him. Thus, he is neither crude nor harsh. He does not shout or raise his voice when he walks in the market areas, where many tend to shout in order to attract attention. He maintains an air of dignity and calmness. He does not return a bad action with a similarly bad one. Rather, he forbears and forgives. This is how he wins people's hearts. Then his mission is defined. He is to set the divine faith on its firm foundation, which is the belief in God's absolute oneness. When people accept this, their hearts, ears and eyes are wide open. They see the truth for what it is and follow it.
There are several Hadiths that describe the Prophet's physical appearance. These are very detailed. In addition, we have numerous Hadiths that describe certain aspects of his appearance or how he conducted himself. For example, we have a good description of the way he walked. Ali reports: "When God's Messenger walked, he would bend forward a little as if he were coming downhill." (Related by Al-Tirmidhi, Ibn Saad and Al-Baghawi.) This is the sort of walk that gives a clear impression of a very strong person for whom walking was a simple exercise. When we walk downhill, we find walking easy, and we are fast because the sloping ground makes it easier for us to move forward.
This is confirmed by the following description given by Abu Hurayrah: "I have never seen anyone better looking than God's Messenger. It was as if the sun was reflected in his face. I never saw anyone walking faster than the Prophet. It was as if the ground shrank for him. We would be making a strenuous effort (to keep up with him) while he walked effortlessly." (Related by Ahmad, Al-Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibban, Al-Bayhaqi and others.) Again this gives a clear impression of the Prophet's physical strength. It was not as if he made any effort to give such an impression. He would be walking normally, but his walk was fast for his companions who had to put a real effort to keep up with him.
Another description of his walk is that given by Ibn Abbas: "When the Prophet walked, he moved all his body in such a way that gives a clear image that he was neither lacking ability nor lazy." (Related by Ibn Saad and Ibn Hibban.) It is indeed important to realize that his way of walking always indicated physical strength, but his physical strength was never highlighted as a main characteristic of his. Indeed people concentrated on his character and the way he behaved.
Other Hadiths describing his way of walking may be quoted, such as Jabir's report: "When the Prophet walked, his companions walked in front of him, leaving his back for the angels." (Related by Ibn Hibban.) Abu Hurayrah reports: "The Prophet walked with his full feet, coming forward altogether, or going back altogether. I never saw anyone like him." (Related by Ibn Hibban and Ibn Katheer.)

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